Charm means to attract. It is interesting that the word also has a definition in the field of sorcery, where it means to control through magical spells. As with most seemingly divergent or different meanings, these two are actually quite close. When you charm a woman, you are essentially casting your spell on her. You will control her (not in an evil way; you control her in the same way a baby controls its parents by crying or smiling) through a series of qualities and values that you display through your behavior.
So what behaviors, values, and qualities do women consider charming? One of the qualities that is universally appreciated by women is humor. If you can make her laugh you will be labeled as charming. If you already consider yourself humorous, great, keep doing what you naturally do. If you are told by your friends that you have a poor sense of humor you can work on this area by taking classes, watching comedians and stealing their tricks, and just trying to see the humor inherent in any situation.
A classic example of a charming man is one who is polite and well mannered. This is a great characteristic because it will work on virtually any woman. Old or young, wild or tightly wound, the vast majority of women want to be treated like a lady. Holding open doors, walking on her side that is nearest the street, tipping people appropriately-these are all ways to demonstrate your good breeding. It will also subtly display your dominance in the situation. Since you are in a sense "taking care" of her, you are in the dominant position. The key here is to balance your politeness out with some sarcasm, humor, or unpredictability. You don't want to seem like a stick-in-the-mud.
A third quality you want to display in order to be charming is ambition. Women love a man with ambition because it shows he is going places in life, and will either take her with him, or at least keep pace with her. When you are ambitious, you are also independent: you have your own interests and needs, and you know how to attend to them.
Your ambition could be to play an instrument, to write a screenplay, or to close a big deal at your firm. Whatever it is it should be something you truly care about. On the other hand, it doesn't necessarily have to be the topic of conversation every time you go out. The great thing about women is that they can sense a lot of what's going on beneath the surface. If you hold an ambition truly and deeply, she will know it without you saying a word.
A man who is charming is the type of person that is dangerous enough to be exciting but polite enough to take home to meet the parents. If you can embody the characteristics of that type of guy then you will charm the pants off women, young and old.
So what behaviors, values, and qualities do women consider charming? One of the qualities that is universally appreciated by women is humor. If you can make her laugh you will be labeled as charming. If you already consider yourself humorous, great, keep doing what you naturally do. If you are told by your friends that you have a poor sense of humor you can work on this area by taking classes, watching comedians and stealing their tricks, and just trying to see the humor inherent in any situation.
A classic example of a charming man is one who is polite and well mannered. This is a great characteristic because it will work on virtually any woman. Old or young, wild or tightly wound, the vast majority of women want to be treated like a lady. Holding open doors, walking on her side that is nearest the street, tipping people appropriately-these are all ways to demonstrate your good breeding. It will also subtly display your dominance in the situation. Since you are in a sense "taking care" of her, you are in the dominant position. The key here is to balance your politeness out with some sarcasm, humor, or unpredictability. You don't want to seem like a stick-in-the-mud.
A third quality you want to display in order to be charming is ambition. Women love a man with ambition because it shows he is going places in life, and will either take her with him, or at least keep pace with her. When you are ambitious, you are also independent: you have your own interests and needs, and you know how to attend to them.
Your ambition could be to play an instrument, to write a screenplay, or to close a big deal at your firm. Whatever it is it should be something you truly care about. On the other hand, it doesn't necessarily have to be the topic of conversation every time you go out. The great thing about women is that they can sense a lot of what's going on beneath the surface. If you hold an ambition truly and deeply, she will know it without you saying a word.
A man who is charming is the type of person that is dangerous enough to be exciting but polite enough to take home to meet the parents. If you can embody the characteristics of that type of guy then you will charm the pants off women, young and old.
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